How My Boys Learned To Protect Themselves From An Active Shooter

He stood on top of the toilet & said, “this is what we were told to do when an intruder comes”…

Hello! (Crickets chirping) I know you’re probably wondering where I’ve been & what happened to post M-W-F as I advertise. Trust me, I know. But, Life happened.

So, much has happened this past two weeks – more than what I was ready to shoulder. An unexpected death, my return to school, my job, epic time management fails, motherhood, sports schedules, the Las Vegas shooting, new schools.. trust me the list can go on & on!

And, please don’t think I’m complaining. I’m not. It’s just life is happening and there is no way to stop it or slow it down. I can’t change what I can’t control. Even though I wish I could. Anyways, we have been rolling with the punches as they come. Staying positive & relying on faith and prayers that things will smooth out. I know they will.

As I lay in bed typing this blog, I’m just embracing this moment of silence. It’s been awhile since I’ve had a moment to myself. Silence is a great time to collect my thoughts. First off, my heart aches for the tragedy in Vegas, my heart aches for the world in general. Every day I find myself having to shed light or bring back some positivity in my kids’ lives. Both boys are fully aware of what’s going on in the world around them. They understand why People cry when someone passes, they understand why as Parents we are so concerned for their safety at such highly public places due to so much hate and unexpected chaos. They understand why Mommy & Daddy are protective of their overall well-being. They get all of that. But, what they can’t grasp is why other people would do harmful or bad things, just because. And, unfortunately, I can’t even try to explain why people do such bad things to others for no reason.

True story, the other day the boys came home from school and I heard them talking in the bathroom. I walked over to the bathroom and saw Skyler standing on the toilet. I asked why he was standing on the toilet & to get down. He said, “I was just showing Spencer. We learned it in our drill. If there is an intruder and we are in the bathroom that this is what we should do.”

As a parent, I was in shock. This is what the world has come too. Don’t get me wrong, I’m grateful for the drills and protective matters the school teachers to ensure our children’s safety. But, I’m saddened by the fact someone could even walk into a school building and harm innocent children. Back when I was in elementary the only drills we practiced was the bus drill, Fire, and tornado drills. I’m just in awe!

See as parents we can only “shield” our kids from learning or understanding so many “bad” things. They’ll eventually learn about it in school, see it on tv, or Joe next door told Sally who told Billy who then told your kids on the bus. It’s inevitable.  I mean We can only hope that our kiddos know the difference between right and wrong & don’t fall into peer pressure and steer away from the bad, wrong things in life.

I learned the hard way from the boys entering elementary school. I now tell them if they question if something is good or bad to come ask an adult prior to whatever it is they’re attempting to do or say. I now get asked often if a specific word is a bad word cause one of their classmates says it, or if a certain tv show or character is appropriate to watch cause they saw it on YouTube. I’m glad my boys are open to communicating (right now) & I hope it stays that way.

I know that my Husband and I can only do so much in raising our tribe. SSK might be an incomplete understanding of our morals, values in our home but, as soon as they step foot out that door. It’s a different world. We constantly remind them of who they are. And, tell them to stay grounded and be humble. Cause apparently these days, even in elementary school it’s a TOUGH pond. Kids will tear you apart, they will eat you alive! There’s bullying, there are cliques, there’s so much negativity. It’s mind-blowing!

We always tell SSK to “be the change we want to see in the world.” To be the better, kinder person. We teach them to be everyone’s friend, to reach out and help others. We always tell them if you see someone sitting alone, be their buddy and sit next to them. We teach them to treat others with respect. We show them to be kind & use their manners. And, so on and so forth. I mean c’mon all I’m trying to do is raise my kids to be well-rounded, well-mannered individuals. Isn’t that all of our goals? And, I know for being 8,6 & 3 that they’re capable of being the change in the world because it’s the example I’m setting & the things I’m teaching, and the people I’m surrounding my kids with.

Now, I’m no Saint. I have my flaws & my children aren’t perfect angels. Trust me. But, I’m always trying to put my best foot forward. But, I have hope that my kids will make a positive impact in the world someday. And, as of now, the world needs more positivity & kinder hearts. The world needs to see change.

So, as I end this blog post for the night. I want to encourage you, in your moment of silence, think of all those whom we have recently lost. Think of all those tragedies the world has been seeing. And, really use the silence to steer you and guide you into what can we do to make the world better? What could we do to shine more positivity? It doesn’t have to be gigantic goals, baby steps are always great! For me, it’s teaching the next generation to be the change. To shed positivity & be kind. It might not do a lot, but, it will help!

Sending you love, positive vibes & blessings!

Pinky

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How I Gave-Up On Being A Mom

Guys, today I threw in the towel, I raised the white flag. I threw my hands up in the air. I’ve never felt so defeated in my 8 years of parenthood. Today, was that day hell broke loose in my home.

Obviously, having 3 kids fairly close in age isn’t like having a walk in the park. They bicker, fight & get on each other’s nerves. On most days, we can surpass the bickering and argue and they play fairly well together. Today, that was not the case.

Kate’s inner “diva” came out & since she missed a nap she was extra sassy & attitudey thanks to that lack of sleep. She was so out of the norm: not going to the potty, throwing her toys, not playing nicely or using her manners. Very unlike Kate. I tried to get to her level & talk to her to see what was bothering her. But, really she was just being a mischievous toddler.

The boys came home from school and were bickering as soon as they got out of the van. They fought over who could push the button to close the van & argued on who pushed it last. It got worst as they settled after unloading bags & putting uniforms away. There was kicking and jumping, a lot of tackling and running. Typical boy antics. But, for some reason, they were more concerned about how to rile up their sister. (Insert serious -FACE PALM-). Guys, it was brutal today! More so than I’ve ever experienced.

My kids, for the most part, are well behaved, they mind their manners, play along and when they do act up you can simply just ask them or tell them to be polite or to mind, their manners or even explain why they shouldn’t be misbehaving or acting a certain way. FOR THE MOST PART, I’ve thankfully haven’t had an issue aside from today. Today, I was pulling boys off each other, constantly tending to a crying child. I was looking at scratches, bruises and whatever war wound they could configure in their chaos!

I’ve never had to use so many timeouts in one day or take away iPads, iPods, tv or even threaten to bench them from sports! I used the mom glare, the mom tone of voice, and I even used the “don’t make me call your Dad.” I normally just have to say, “do we need a time out?” And, normally my kiddos straighten up and we never have to go to time out. Today, I was using almost every corner of my house! It was crazy! I have them a few minutes all separated to think about their actions & we talked about how we could do better. And, when I thought there was a breakthrough they became ninjas and attacked one another. Today, Momming was just hard!

Sigh, it was exhausting. I was trying to work simultaneously and it just was not going smoothly. One kiddo came home feeling blah. I assumed it was the crazy weekend/week we had. So I’m hoping for a restful weekend he should be golden. 

I’ve never looked forward to bedtime until today. After I got all 3 to bed I took some time for myself. Just some quiet reflecting. Right after, I walked into the rooms and tucked in, kissed and prayed over each of my kiddos. I stared at them for a little. They’re getting older. It’s heart-wrenching. Sometimes I forget they’re kids & they’re meant to be little terrors every once in a while. And, sometimes rules are meant to be broken or ignored whether we like it or not. They’re growing older and testing they’re limits. I guess it comes with the territory of aging. Ugh, bittersweet.

I hope I NEVER have another day like today, I nearly wanted to hide under my desk until their Dad came home to save me.

Have you guys had Momming moments like this?

Hugs,

Pink