True Story: Epic Melt Down (Mom Edition)

Multiple people today mentioned how busy my wife and I have become; they commented how they’re amazed that we are somehow sane. I gotta admit, I’m blessed Pinky keeps us on track with our crazy schedules. Without her I’d be lost and our family would be in one hell of a mess.
She helps me care for my 90yr old grandfather, homeschools my son, gets my other son from school, does all homework with them, does workbooks with my daughter, manages our home, does all hockey and figure skating classes/practices/jamborees/games, finds time to volunteer, works full time from home and MORE! She makes my 49.5 hr work weeks look like child’s play haha
“How do you do it?” They ask.
My answer: i couldn’t do it without her.

Hello! Happy first day of Spring! (Is that day today or was that yesterday?) See how well, I know my days? anyways, hey there! ;] It’s been an absolute hot minute since I’ve posted on the blog (epic fail). But, I guess you can say, my overflowing schedule has finally burned me out! And, I’m shamelessly here to share with you, my meltdown moment (Mom edition)!

Today, was one of those days when I felt like the weight of the world was on my shoulders. TBH, my life isn’t always rainbows & butterflies – (Shocker, I know). I like to think My life is a good mix of chaos & glitter vomit. (I still have to be a little extra!) It may always seem like I have it “altogether” but, let’s kick the BS to the side and speak the truth, shall we? Let’s be real, 9 times out of 10 I call my kid the wrong name & don’t even get me started on getting their birthdays correct. (Epic Brain Fog).

I’m not a “SuperMom” or the “Perfect” Wife nor are my Husband and I a ”Power Couple”. We aren’t perfect, FAR from it. I just try & embrace my chaos to the best that I can. And, it includes having a healthy breakdown (or two). And, I know as Individuals we all have our own personal chaos we embrace, along with balancing our Families too! It can be a lot.

Ain’t that something, dealing with your own self as well as other people’s can be a lot to carry. And, if you’re anything like me, where you’re similar to the energizer bunny, there’s NO stopping or NO days off. Just being constantly busy until you completely have a burn-out or meltdown. I had several meltdowns this week. (sigh). My body was feeling the stress, my face looked exhausted and haggard. My anxiety was worse than getting a paper cut in the webbing between your fingers (and, those hurt badly!). I was just a mess. See, I do SO much that I fear if I stop at any given moment that everything around me, falls apart. When in reality everything will be ok (technically, things might not get done or function) but, it will be okay. But, when I sit back and reflect– was it worth driving myself to pure exhaustion? All because I didn’t pause and take time for myself. No, it wasn’t. (#noregerts) — Yes, I misspelled that on purpose. ;]

Poor Ric had to feel the wrath of my meltdown. But, he knew just how tired and drained I’ve been as a ”SAHM”. First things first, never underestimate a ”stay-at-home” Parent! They work just as equally hard as the other half who does their 9-5! I’m glad Ric sees that I do a whole list of things so our daily routine is functioning.

“Multiple people today mentioned how busy my wife and I have become; they commented how they’re amazed that we are somehow sane. I gotta admit, I’m blessed Pinky keeps us on track with our crazy schedules. Without her I’d be lost and our family would be in one hell of a mess.

She helps me care for my 90 year old grandfather, homeschools my son, gets my other son from school, does all homework with them, does workbooks with my daughter, manages our home, does all hockey and figuree skating classes/practices/jamborees/games, finds time to volunteer, works full-time from home and MORE! She makes my 49.5 hr work weeks look like child’s play haha

“How do you do it?” They ask.
My answer: i couldn’t do it without her.” – Ric

See, I’m not as graceful as it seems (the internet can play you like that) although, Ric’s words are truer than true: TBH, I have my cry sessions, wine days & impromptu karaoke/dance sesh’s. More so, as I’ve previously mentioned in another post, I’ve recently given my faith another go around & give myself my “me” time at the church. I say a lot of prayers (sometimes blast a plethora of praise & worship music) or blast music that gives me the absolute feels (thank you, Adele, Demi Lovato & Sam Smith). I tend to drink a lot of red bull & coffee to function (no worries, I also keep up with my water intake). I run mostly off of phone alarms and the family calendar reminders.

I know for me it’s all my responsibilities: which entails working from home/the hospital & running the blog, as well as managing the family/kids schedules), etc. that sometimes makes me baffled at how it’s possible to fit so many things in a 24-hour span!

And, most importantly, I say this all the time (I’ll happily give credit where credit is due)— I’m grateful I have a “village” of people who help me when they can (you guys know who you are). I’m blessed in that sense when I need a breather (or seven), or sometimes just 10 minutes of extra sleep: I have my Family, close friends and of course our Nanny who love & help care for SSK when they’re available! (Mind you they also take care of me too when I forget to take care of myself). #grateful

I’m also thankful that I have a partner who sees my efforts & appreciates our chaos (no matter how INSANE it gets). I know Ric works long hours (in which I appreciate his hustle to provide), he does miss a lot of things, but, I know he tries his absolute best & is very hands-on when he is off & with the kids! Idk, how we make anything work. But, we are (kind of).

Anyways, before this becomes a longer novel I guess what I’m trying to say is, embrace your chaos, find your peace when necessary. And, most importantly, Be kind to one another. Sometimes people put a good smile on their face, but, you never know what a person is dealing with until you’ve walked in their shoes (or Christian Louboutin’s) — sorry, had to be extra. And, as a GF reminded me today – the advice that I took: ”let the laundry pile up, its okay to miss a practice or game. Take care of you, first.”

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How I Rock-Out Through December

Guys! We are half-way through December. And, like November it quickly came and gone! I feel like I have not been able to just sit and type like I used too. I solely, rely on a Calendar and constant reminders to tell me where I should be at what time, and when. Phew, it’s simply tiring! I am however, very grateful to have some down time today. I got all three kids to take a nap simultaneously and am catching-up on laundry that I think has been sitting in the hallways for weeks. Mind you, I find myself constantly washing uniforms (school uniforms, work uniforms) only! So, I figured having my hallway back would be a great way to end the year!  Any ways, with Christmas coming-up and so many new changes and events had come and gone, I figured some writing was way over- due!

My kids are growing-up way too fast! Skyler-Ian, turned 7 this year, Spencer turned 6 and Katelynn turned 3! You can learn more about their birthdays in this blog– HERE! This year, had a lot of challenges. From the boys school switching schools in the beginning to the year, to having a part-time Nanny to help with the three kiddos (which I am forever grateful for), and trying to slowly renovate our home, as well as adding on a few extra-curricular activities.

Thankfully, all these challenges or new comings went smoothly. The boys switching schools in the beginning of the year was a bit overwhelming. We had an issue with the original school the boys were enrolled in & therefore they moved to a different school. It took some time to adjust, but, it worked-out well. Unfortunately, they won’t be staying at this school after this year. So, fingers crossed on smooth transitions.

I’ve been working more since the kids have gotten older. And, I know I have discussed this prior. Since, we lived in our old house in Avondale, we were looking for a Nanny. We looked and interviewed, did trial-runs, but, they didn’t very long. Whether it was our kids not having that connection, or that the schedule didn’t work for the other person. Thankfully, We finally found an amazing friend who helps us with SSK about 3-4 times a week. She is everything and more! Our kids are obsessed with her, and we adore her and her Family! I am forever blessed by her help, and her love and care she gives SSK! It’s hard to find people who genuinely love your kiddos!

Renovations around the house are S L O W! Like, seriously, slow! The most we have done since completing the earlier renovations was finally re-doing the bathroom floors (from my epic pinterest fail). Otherwise, that’s about it. I mean one day, I will put renovations on the top of my list. But, for right now. My house is a home even if it’s slightly in shambles.

We recently added on a few extra-curricular activities to our crazy, hectic lifestyle! And, if you follow-me on any of my social media, you probably already know that Skyler-Ian recently joined Hockey! He has been asking me to play hockey for over a year. I was hesitant, because of how expensive it was. Thankfully, I came across this program — learn about it HERE! It’s called “Little Howlers,” Spencer was originally in it as well and absolutely hated it! But, to each their own. Skyler, has NEVER been on ice, or handled a hockey stick in his life. Surprisingly, he caught-on quick and we received a lot of high praise for Skyler’s quick learning. He quickly went through the program & we joined another two programs. He quickly is completing those respectively and we got asked to join a league! Skyler, finally found his calling. He loves hockey, loves being at the rink, and honestly, its quite hard to get him to go home! But, nonetheless, I am grateful he found a sport he loves.

Recently, I feel as though my life revolves around a Calendar. I share multiple calendars with various people: I have my own personal calendar (this is pretty much reminders to myself); I share a calendar with my gf’s and group of friends (typically our social outing calendar); and I share  calendar with Ric (basically, everything to pertain to the kids and their schedules). I also share a calendar with our Nanny and our friend (this is more so a work schedule). I LOVE my calendars as chaotic as it may seem on my phone. I write a lot of these dates down into my agenda. But, it helps me stay organized and on-top of things. I know as the kids get older, the more crazier the calendar will get.

Today, I don’t think I’ve ever been so excited to sit an just do laundry. Not worry about homework, or anything like that. Today, I am enjoying my household chores (surprise, surprise!). The holidays are coming quick this weekend, and I don’t even have gifts ready!

What are your holidays looking like? Let me know!

 

With love,

Pinky