True Story: Epic Melt Down (Mom Edition)

Multiple people today mentioned how busy my wife and I have become; they commented how they’re amazed that we are somehow sane. I gotta admit, I’m blessed Pinky keeps us on track with our crazy schedules. Without her I’d be lost and our family would be in one hell of a mess.
She helps me care for my 90yr old grandfather, homeschools my son, gets my other son from school, does all homework with them, does workbooks with my daughter, manages our home, does all hockey and figure skating classes/practices/jamborees/games, finds time to volunteer, works full time from home and MORE! She makes my 49.5 hr work weeks look like child’s play haha
“How do you do it?” They ask.
My answer: i couldn’t do it without her.

Hello! Happy first day of Spring! (Is that day today or was that yesterday?) See how well, I know my days? anyways, hey there! ;] It’s been an absolute hot minute since I’ve posted on the blog (epic fail). But, I guess you can say, my overflowing schedule has finally burned me out! And, I’m shamelessly here to share with you, my meltdown moment (Mom edition)!

Today, was one of those days when I felt like the weight of the world was on my shoulders. TBH, my life isn’t always rainbows & butterflies – (Shocker, I know). I like to think My life is a good mix of chaos & glitter vomit. (I still have to be a little extra!) It may always seem like I have it “altogether” but, let’s kick the BS to the side and speak the truth, shall we? Let’s be real, 9 times out of 10 I call my kid the wrong name & don’t even get me started on getting their birthdays correct. (Epic Brain Fog).

I’m not a “SuperMom” or the “Perfect” Wife nor are my Husband and I a ”Power Couple”. We aren’t perfect, FAR from it. I just try & embrace my chaos to the best that I can. And, it includes having a healthy breakdown (or two). And, I know as Individuals we all have our own personal chaos we embrace, along with balancing our Families too! It can be a lot.

Ain’t that something, dealing with your own self as well as other people’s can be a lot to carry. And, if you’re anything like me, where you’re similar to the energizer bunny, there’s NO stopping or NO days off. Just being constantly busy until you completely have a burn-out or meltdown. I had several meltdowns this week. (sigh). My body was feeling the stress, my face looked exhausted and haggard. My anxiety was worse than getting a paper cut in the webbing between your fingers (and, those hurt badly!). I was just a mess. See, I do SO much that I fear if I stop at any given moment that everything around me, falls apart. When in reality everything will be ok (technically, things might not get done or function) but, it will be okay. But, when I sit back and reflect– was it worth driving myself to pure exhaustion? All because I didn’t pause and take time for myself. No, it wasn’t. (#noregerts) — Yes, I misspelled that on purpose. ;]

Poor Ric had to feel the wrath of my meltdown. But, he knew just how tired and drained I’ve been as a ”SAHM”. First things first, never underestimate a ”stay-at-home” Parent! They work just as equally hard as the other half who does their 9-5! I’m glad Ric sees that I do a whole list of things so our daily routine is functioning.

“Multiple people today mentioned how busy my wife and I have become; they commented how they’re amazed that we are somehow sane. I gotta admit, I’m blessed Pinky keeps us on track with our crazy schedules. Without her I’d be lost and our family would be in one hell of a mess.

She helps me care for my 90 year old grandfather, homeschools my son, gets my other son from school, does all homework with them, does workbooks with my daughter, manages our home, does all hockey and figuree skating classes/practices/jamborees/games, finds time to volunteer, works full-time from home and MORE! She makes my 49.5 hr work weeks look like child’s play haha

“How do you do it?” They ask.
My answer: i couldn’t do it without her.” – Ric

See, I’m not as graceful as it seems (the internet can play you like that) although, Ric’s words are truer than true: TBH, I have my cry sessions, wine days & impromptu karaoke/dance sesh’s. More so, as I’ve previously mentioned in another post, I’ve recently given my faith another go around & give myself my “me” time at the church. I say a lot of prayers (sometimes blast a plethora of praise & worship music) or blast music that gives me the absolute feels (thank you, Adele, Demi Lovato & Sam Smith). I tend to drink a lot of red bull & coffee to function (no worries, I also keep up with my water intake). I run mostly off of phone alarms and the family calendar reminders.

I know for me it’s all my responsibilities: which entails working from home/the hospital & running the blog, as well as managing the family/kids schedules), etc. that sometimes makes me baffled at how it’s possible to fit so many things in a 24-hour span!

And, most importantly, I say this all the time (I’ll happily give credit where credit is due)— I’m grateful I have a “village” of people who help me when they can (you guys know who you are). I’m blessed in that sense when I need a breather (or seven), or sometimes just 10 minutes of extra sleep: I have my Family, close friends and of course our Nanny who love & help care for SSK when they’re available! (Mind you they also take care of me too when I forget to take care of myself). #grateful

I’m also thankful that I have a partner who sees my efforts & appreciates our chaos (no matter how INSANE it gets). I know Ric works long hours (in which I appreciate his hustle to provide), he does miss a lot of things, but, I know he tries his absolute best & is very hands-on when he is off & with the kids! Idk, how we make anything work. But, we are (kind of).

Anyways, before this becomes a longer novel I guess what I’m trying to say is, embrace your chaos, find your peace when necessary. And, most importantly, Be kind to one another. Sometimes people put a good smile on their face, but, you never know what a person is dealing with until you’ve walked in their shoes (or Christian Louboutin’s) — sorry, had to be extra. And, as a GF reminded me today – the advice that I took: ”let the laundry pile up, its okay to miss a practice or game. Take care of you, first.”

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Why, We Decided To Homeschool

Happy 2018 our Dear Readers! I know we have been MIA these past few months, as we revamped and changed our brand. We are still ironing out the kinks! So, please be patient.

This past year has been a complete whirlwind and as I had mentioned in a previous blog post — this ONE to be exact. Skyler was struggling in his studies. We completely burned him out at his former school. He would be at school from 7am to 4:30pm. He had to attend tutoring after school and would come home drained. We would spend hours on homework and he would be beyond frustrated.

After several, attempts of after-school tutoring,  We reached out to some nearby tutoring services. Seven days out of the week my 3rd grader was just studying constantly. I could see the little light left in Skyler’s eye slowly disappear, he hated studying, he hated learning, and He started to dread school.

I met with his third-grade team and during this meeting, I felt defeated as a Parent. I listened to all the Teachers speak on how Skyler was slowly improving. But, it was barely passing. He was making strides but, it wasn’t fast enough for an accelerated school. I didn’t blame the school, nor the staff. They did everything they could, I didn’t blame Skyler cause he did everything he could on his end. And, it certainly wasn’t my fault because I reached out to every resource I had. This simply was nobody’s fault. But, I couldn’t help but cry as I felt like I had failed.

We realized together, that Skyler had a better learning environment one-on-one. Although, Skyler had no learning disabilities and worked great with his class. The courses were moving too fast for him. I decided that homeschool would be the best option for my 8-year-old.

Now, homeschool for me sounded terrifying! I worked 2-3 days at the hospital during the week, I had to hold back my hours so that I could focus on Skyler’s education. I withdrew Skyler from school the week before Thanksgiving break. I went to our county and submitted my affidavit with an intent to homeschool.

I’m grateful I have friends who homeschool their kids, and they were A LOT of help! They shared their favorite learning resources as well as curriculums they loved! I was able to meet and engage with other fellow homeschooling Mom’s in my area and they were a lot of help as well. There was a lot of trial and error and we were able to find a great curriculum for Skyler that we absolutely loved and worked best for us! I’ll share the curriculum we used in a future post.

He has been improving and loving school again! Our goal is to bring him back into the school system for his 4th grade. That’s if he is ready. We are in no rush. Spencer, stayed at his school as it is a prime fit for him. Since winter break is officially over we spent the day reviewing and doing math and language arts as well as reading. We will be tackling Science and Social Studies later this afternoon.

How were your Holidays and New Year? Let me know!

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How Katelynn Began Homeschooling For PreSchool

We’ve got ourself a lefty!

The boys have officially entered their second week of school! I officially have a 3rd grader who will be 8 on Sunday & a first grader who will be 7 this November!

Kate is 3 and will be 4 this December-guys, where have my babies gone!? I’m loving these ages but, I do miss having a little baby nugget around!

If you’ve followed me since the beginning you know that I had put Skyler in pre-school at 3 years old. At 4 we continued pre-school at home & at 5 he was off to public school! Spencer stayed home at 3-4 years old and we homeschooled until he was off to public school at 5!

Kate will be homeschooled for pre-school and we will be doing a lot of play dates/co-op preschool play dates. I discovered that Kate is a lefty just like me! (Woo-hoo!) I always found it hard when I was teaching the boys to hold a pencil when they were 3 how to properly hold it with their right hand. So thankful the Hubby and Brother stepped in to help, cause quite frankly, I don’t know how to hold a pencil in my right hand. Feels strange and incorrect when I do! So when I noticed Kate’s left hand was more dominant I was ecstatic!

We busted out the letter flashcards, number flash cards, and our preschool workbook! Kate can recite her alphabet, count 1-20, she knows her colors and a good majority of her shapes!

My goal this time around is to work on letter recognition and sound recognition. I’ll let you guys know how that goes! (Haha)

Check out this cute little video of Kate tracing today =]

What’re your favorite study habits?

Lots of love,

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