How My 8 Year Old Made Me Cry

Happy Monday, #GP5Fam! It’s been a crazy start to our week here in the Grr-arrow household! I mean when is it not ever crazy in my household, psh! Who am I kidding! I live with crazies! Haha! (facepalm)

Anyways, with hockey & figure skating in full swing. I barely can keep up with the household chores and sleep– speaking of sleep, I miss doing that. And, it’s usually when everyone is asleep, is when I can bust out the phone (or laptop) and get my thoughts on paper.

So, as a warning. We are gonna get sappy in today’s post. So grab your favorite blanket, get cozy on the couch, and grab some tissues & let’s get heartfelt! On today’s post, ”How My 8 Year Old Made Me Cry.”

Today guys, I was a parenting failure! You’re probably thinking I’m being over the top dramatic. And, I wish I was. My TDL was beyond overwhelming. I had emails to tend too, tasks to complete, calls to make and let’s not even get to my list of household chores that desperately needed to get done. I got up early to do some laundry, only to realize the clothes that were previously in the dryer were still wet. So the kids helped me get the wet clothes separated from the dry clothes and placed back in the drier to get dry.

After that, I started getting the sheets off my bed and started piling clothes for the next load of laundry. Mind you I still have a load in the wash, a load in the dryer. 3 piles outside my bedroom door that STILL needs to be done. Sigh. It just seems neverending. I was also on a time crunch as I still had to get Skyler’s homeschool assignments together. And, log on to work!

Time was not on my side today, even though I woke-up decently early. As loads of laundry were going, I scrambled to make sure everyone was fed- from the dogs, turtle and of course the kids!

Once that was ”somewhat” situated I launched my laptop and started on my emails. Simultaneously, I was working on some schooling issues for the upcoming school year which resulted needing to be done via a phone call. Of course, in perfect timing. Katelynn decided to have her full-blown tantrum, complete with ”exorcist” back arches and laying on the floor. All because I told her she couldn’t have fruit snacks for breakfast. Oh, and I stood my ground while I tended to my important phone call. Honestly, I should’ve just given her the damn fruit snack so I could get through my phone conference.

But, alas, In her best, high shrill, Katelynn sang the song of her people — loud enough for the poor lady I was talking to on the phone to hear. And, she politely said, ”Shes got some lungs on her”. Oh, If she only knew how I tried to muffle the sound on the phone so she couldn’t hear and failed epically to balance the phone off my shoulder & pick up a flailing 4-year-old off the floor. All while struggling to also hold a pen & notebook.

After picking Kate up, she was still whining and whimpering, as she still begged for the fruit snack. I continued to stand my ground and put Kate on the couch and walked away into another room so I can somewhat pay attention to what this lady was saying to me. I think I repeated every other sentence back to the lady, to confirm we were on the same page & in all honesty, just cause nothing was clicking.

I walked back out into the living room and put the phone on mute while the lady kept talking. I quickly tried to multitask and tend to Kate. Which resulted in a bigger meltdown cause she wanted to be held — which I, unfortunately, couldn’t do as I needed both hands as I was taking notes during the phone call.

After I no longer could take the whining, I turned on the TV and Thank heavens for Nick Jr, cause whatever show was on calmed Kate. And, after realizing fruit snacks were out of the question Kate drank her milk & ate cereal. (THANK GOD!)

Mind you through this whole Katelynn ordeal, Skyler was (as always) playing hockey in the living room. So I felt like I was playing dodgeball in the house trying to weave through and not get hit. Telling him to stop seemed impossible, also I don’t think he understood my ”miming” since I was on the phone.

Thankfully, I was able to go through my phone call, multitask on the laptop & go through emails. Still, laundry wasn’t done & homeschool didn’t start. My conference and emails took up a chunk of my time.

Once I was finally off the phone the kids reminded me that we needed to get cupcakes and cookies (something I had promised them last week). I packed all my electronics and earpiece and decided that my work would have to be mobile today.

When we got to the bakery we picked out our cupcakes, cookies and headed back to the car. As I loaded the kids into the car I dropped the box which resulted in all the frosting and cupcakes to turn upside down. Fabulous. I scrambled to save what decency the cupcakes had left and headed home.

I tried my best to hold myself together and figured, “What else could go wrong today?”  when we got home, my Husband was there to greet us. I was ready to cry and go in full-Mom-meltdown. And, then Skyler said something completely surprising.

He began to tell Ric about our day, and, I was just waiting for all the epic Mom fails, I had. But, he literally didn’t mention how stressed or frustrated I was. All he took out of the day was– regardless of how busy I was I took time to make Kate food, and turn on the TV for them, and that I drove them to get cupcakes and cookies. Skyle, looked at all the positives I did today, all my multitasking and was happy they got cupcakes and cookies regardless if it was half smashed.

I teared-up and Ric just looked at me like I was insane. I later went on to explain the day from my point of view. How crazy, chaotic it felt.

My kiddo for sure just served me a slice of reality and a good one at that. Perspective.

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Soccer Vs. Hockey The Ultimate Show Down

Hello!

Happy Sunday – I’m a day or two off and next weeks schedule will be video filled! So keep an eye out for that!

We are getting over colds in our household and a huge deep clean of the house! It’s game day in our household and here are the stats!

Spencer’s 5U soccer team is currently UNDEFEATED! Woohoo! They’re at 2 wins, the first game they won 15-0 & today’s game was a 13-6!

Skyler-Ian’s team has 3 wins and a draw! Woohoo! We also have some exciting news to share with Skyler about his hockey journey. We will announce it in the next few months! ;]

It officially falls break in our household & the start of a new (old) school after the week is over! This fall break the kiddos are spending it with Mom aka Grandma! Cause the parents (aka Hubby & I) are off on our Hawaii vacation! (thanks, Discount Tire)!

I have a lot of fun videos coming out this weekend & next week! So make sure to stay tuned!

Hugs from an (overly) tired Mom,

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How My Boys Learned To Protect Themselves From An Active Shooter

He stood on top of the toilet & said, “this is what we were told to do when an intruder comes”…

Hello! (Crickets chirping) I know you’re probably wondering where I’ve been & what happened to post M-W-F as I advertise. Trust me, I know. But, Life happened.

So, much has happened this past two weeks – more than what I was ready to shoulder. An unexpected death, my return to school, my job, epic time management fails, motherhood, sports schedules, the Las Vegas shooting, new schools.. trust me the list can go on & on!

And, please don’t think I’m complaining. I’m not. It’s just life is happening and there is no way to stop it or slow it down. I can’t change what I can’t control. Even though I wish I could. Anyways, we have been rolling with the punches as they come. Staying positive & relying on faith and prayers that things will smooth out. I know they will.

As I lay in bed typing this blog, I’m just embracing this moment of silence. It’s been awhile since I’ve had a moment to myself. Silence is a great time to collect my thoughts. First off, my heart aches for the tragedy in Vegas, my heart aches for the world in general. Every day I find myself having to shed light or bring back some positivity in my kids’ lives. Both boys are fully aware of what’s going on in the world around them. They understand why People cry when someone passes, they understand why as Parents we are so concerned for their safety at such highly public places due to so much hate and unexpected chaos. They understand why Mommy & Daddy are protective of their overall well-being. They get all of that. But, what they can’t grasp is why other people would do harmful or bad things, just because. And, unfortunately, I can’t even try to explain why people do such bad things to others for no reason.

True story, the other day the boys came home from school and I heard them talking in the bathroom. I walked over to the bathroom and saw Skyler standing on the toilet. I asked why he was standing on the toilet & to get down. He said, “I was just showing Spencer. We learned it in our drill. If there is an intruder and we are in the bathroom that this is what we should do.”

As a parent, I was in shock. This is what the world has come too. Don’t get me wrong, I’m grateful for the drills and protective matters the school teachers to ensure our children’s safety. But, I’m saddened by the fact someone could even walk into a school building and harm innocent children. Back when I was in elementary the only drills we practiced was the bus drill, Fire, and tornado drills. I’m just in awe!

See as parents we can only “shield” our kids from learning or understanding so many “bad” things. They’ll eventually learn about it in school, see it on tv, or Joe next door told Sally who told Billy who then told your kids on the bus. It’s inevitable.  I mean We can only hope that our kiddos know the difference between right and wrong & don’t fall into peer pressure and steer away from the bad, wrong things in life.

I learned the hard way from the boys entering elementary school. I now tell them if they question if something is good or bad to come ask an adult prior to whatever it is they’re attempting to do or say. I now get asked often if a specific word is a bad word cause one of their classmates says it, or if a certain tv show or character is appropriate to watch cause they saw it on YouTube. I’m glad my boys are open to communicating (right now) & I hope it stays that way.

I know that my Husband and I can only do so much in raising our tribe. SSK might be an incomplete understanding of our morals, values in our home but, as soon as they step foot out that door. It’s a different world. We constantly remind them of who they are. And, tell them to stay grounded and be humble. Cause apparently these days, even in elementary school it’s a TOUGH pond. Kids will tear you apart, they will eat you alive! There’s bullying, there are cliques, there’s so much negativity. It’s mind-blowing!

We always tell SSK to “be the change we want to see in the world.” To be the better, kinder person. We teach them to be everyone’s friend, to reach out and help others. We always tell them if you see someone sitting alone, be their buddy and sit next to them. We teach them to treat others with respect. We show them to be kind & use their manners. And, so on and so forth. I mean c’mon all I’m trying to do is raise my kids to be well-rounded, well-mannered individuals. Isn’t that all of our goals? And, I know for being 8,6 & 3 that they’re capable of being the change in the world because it’s the example I’m setting & the things I’m teaching, and the people I’m surrounding my kids with.

Now, I’m no Saint. I have my flaws & my children aren’t perfect angels. Trust me. But, I’m always trying to put my best foot forward. But, I have hope that my kids will make a positive impact in the world someday. And, as of now, the world needs more positivity & kinder hearts. The world needs to see change.

So, as I end this blog post for the night. I want to encourage you, in your moment of silence, think of all those whom we have recently lost. Think of all those tragedies the world has been seeing. And, really use the silence to steer you and guide you into what can we do to make the world better? What could we do to shine more positivity? It doesn’t have to be gigantic goals, baby steps are always great! For me, it’s teaching the next generation to be the change. To shed positivity & be kind. It might not do a lot, but, it will help!

Sending you love, positive vibes & blessings!

Pinky

Why, I’ve Been Slacking

Hello, from a slacker 😅

I know, I forgot to post on Monday! Realistically, I didn’t forget. I knew it was Monday but, my schedule has been filled with Kiddo engagements!

Therefore, the title of “Mednesday” a blog post about Monday & Wednesday combined. You’re welcome! 😜

If you’ve been following me on Facebook (HERE) or Instagram (HERE). Then you’re familiar with my new sports inclined schedule! The boys have officially taken on sport club teams which now engulf my whole ENTIRE agenda! (I’m not kidding). I’m a calendar fiend! I absolutely schedule everything down to a “T”. My iPhone calendar is color coded & shared accordingly, my agenda in my home office coincides with my iPhone calendar & therefore everything is scheduled properly!

Monday’s are club practice nights and also a school night. Now, during the day I work from home & am currently studying for school. I’m also a Mom to a mischievous 3-year-old, that speaks volume all on its own. During the day, I’m swamped with emails, phone calls, calendar changes, making appointments, tending to Kate, chores or cooking. Once the boys come home they have an early dinner/snack, do some homework or quick studying & off to the rink we go!!

This is going to be the new norm. I’m grateful for our Nanny because right now, my brain is functioning but, I’m everywhere!! My schedule is about to get crazier once Spencer starts practicing for soccer within this next week!

Saturday’s are about to be official “Game Days” in our household. Soccer games in the morning & straight to hockey in the afternoon! I’ve already got my “Mom team shirts” ready! And, I’m grateful for my extra hands that help me!

I say this A LOT & it’s because it’s true. It takes a village to raise kids! I’m grateful for my family & friends who help with carpooling, lunches/dinners, attending games or practices to cheer my kiddos on. Or simply entertain my other kids when I’m helping another! Now, I do a lot on my own obviously, and Ric comes when work permits. But, I never decline the extra help if offered.

It’s officially humping day, I’m already ready for Friday 😂 I just want to shut my phone off and just not be connected to anything. I’m going to make that a routine to just “unhook” from my phone once a week! I’m constantly on it for work & it’s just draining!

My kids are growing older, they’re finding their niches and I don’t want to miss any of that. I’ve been doing great at just living in the moment. It’s invigorating!

Anyways, Check-out these photos of Sky tonight when he and Ric did some conditioning off the ice! Whether it’s on ice or off this kid just wants to constantly play hockey! I ain’t mad! Haha!


I’m excited to see Spencer start playing & Skyler to grow stronger in his skill! I hope you guys are excited too! Enjoy your Wednesday or “Mednesday”!

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How Skyler Got Burned Out

Guys, Friday could not come fast enough. The Guerrero household is feeling “fried” — burned out. Burned to an absolute crisp! We’ve had such a busy week, and the breaks never help!

Here is a little background for you, nothing is worse than when your child doesn’t understand the concept of something they’re learning. They spend ENDLESS hours being at school-learning. Then they come home and do homework and they STILL don’t get it. My heart hurts for them. It’s because I can only do so much as a parent. I don’t know what they’re learning or don’t know how to teach them. Or I may teach them differently than what they’re used too. I see my bright-eyed boy who loves to go to school, come home and dread doing the work. I can only imagine once sports pick up how drained & frustrated he is going to be.

Luckily, I’m reaching out to every avenue I have tutoring services, extra help in homework, or even extra time with the teacher. Fingers crossed that it helps!

Now, we all kind of might be familiar with my backstory. Pregnant at an early age out of wedlock. Yeah, that speech! A lot of people will say I did life ” backward” meaning I had the baby first than got married, did college, etc. And, it took a long time for me to be “ok” with what society thought of my situation. I used to beat myself up daily for it! Now, as I get older it really doesn’t matter what order I did live, as long as I handled it. My life is and always will be a work in progress. I’m always finding ways to better myself and do more for my family and for our future. I graduated college, have a career, a home, and a healthy family. I achieved all that even when I did life ” backward”.

Now, I’m not saying go out there and get pregnant early, etc. No, I’m just saying handle your situation and work with what you’ve got. Ignore the comments and haters, let that be motivation for you to get to the top.

Blessings,

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When Skyler Tried Out For The Wrong Team

Happy Labor Day Weekend, folks!

This past weekend Ric & I were grateful to have a stay-cation at “The Wigwam Resort” in Old Litchfield Park. Ric & his (soon-to-be) former store & co-workers were treated to a stay-cation with their significant others as well as an awesome dinner!

We had A LOT of fun getting to chat with friends, swim, drink & eat! We celebrated two employee birthdays & of course Ric’s promotion!

If you don’t follow me on Facebook (follow us HERE). I announced last Friday, that Ric was promoted to Senior Assistant Manager at a new store opening in Peoria. We were originally set to transfer to the East coast region of Discount Tire. We are grateful for the opportunity to be able to stay in AZ instead!

The resort stay was exactly what this Momma needed — a break from chores & uninterrupted sleep! I was grateful for my Baby whisperer AKA nanny, who took the kids to the splash pad & kept the kiddos busy & entertained! I was able to enjoy one-on-one time with Ric (which was much needed).

After check-out, we headed home and got ourselves situated back into our daily routine. It’s also hockey evaluation day! We have been counting down the days for eval day!

Today embarks a new chapter in Skyler’s hockey journey! We are trying out for club hockey! He is set to try-out for division 8U hockey!

Try-outs or evaluation day consisted of:

  • Skating Drills
  • Hockey Scrimmage

Skyler did TWO hours of hockey back to back and loved it! As a Mom, I definitely never want to push my kids to do anything they don’t want to do. I do though want to encourage them to try their hardest, listen & have fun!

Skyler skated his best & showed his best! I’m one proud (anxious) Mom! We are now waiting for team set-ups & thus begins our first practice & first game! I’ll keep you up to date!
Best,

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How I Gave-Up On Being A Mom

Guys, today I threw in the towel, I raised the white flag. I threw my hands up in the air. I’ve never felt so defeated in my 8 years of parenthood. Today, was that day hell broke loose in my home.

Obviously, having 3 kids fairly close in age isn’t like having a walk in the park. They bicker, fight & get on each other’s nerves. On most days, we can surpass the bickering and argue and they play fairly well together. Today, that was not the case.

Kate’s inner “diva” came out & since she missed a nap she was extra sassy & attitudey thanks to that lack of sleep. She was so out of the norm: not going to the potty, throwing her toys, not playing nicely or using her manners. Very unlike Kate. I tried to get to her level & talk to her to see what was bothering her. But, really she was just being a mischievous toddler.

The boys came home from school and were bickering as soon as they got out of the van. They fought over who could push the button to close the van & argued on who pushed it last. It got worst as they settled after unloading bags & putting uniforms away. There was kicking and jumping, a lot of tackling and running. Typical boy antics. But, for some reason, they were more concerned about how to rile up their sister. (Insert serious -FACE PALM-). Guys, it was brutal today! More so than I’ve ever experienced.

My kids, for the most part, are well behaved, they mind their manners, play along and when they do act up you can simply just ask them or tell them to be polite or to mind, their manners or even explain why they shouldn’t be misbehaving or acting a certain way. FOR THE MOST PART, I’ve thankfully haven’t had an issue aside from today. Today, I was pulling boys off each other, constantly tending to a crying child. I was looking at scratches, bruises and whatever war wound they could configure in their chaos!

I’ve never had to use so many timeouts in one day or take away iPads, iPods, tv or even threaten to bench them from sports! I used the mom glare, the mom tone of voice, and I even used the “don’t make me call your Dad.” I normally just have to say, “do we need a time out?” And, normally my kiddos straighten up and we never have to go to time out. Today, I was using almost every corner of my house! It was crazy! I have them a few minutes all separated to think about their actions & we talked about how we could do better. And, when I thought there was a breakthrough they became ninjas and attacked one another. Today, Momming was just hard!

Sigh, it was exhausting. I was trying to work simultaneously and it just was not going smoothly. One kiddo came home feeling blah. I assumed it was the crazy weekend/week we had. So I’m hoping for a restful weekend he should be golden. 

I’ve never looked forward to bedtime until today. After I got all 3 to bed I took some time for myself. Just some quiet reflecting. Right after, I walked into the rooms and tucked in, kissed and prayed over each of my kiddos. I stared at them for a little. They’re getting older. It’s heart-wrenching. Sometimes I forget they’re kids & they’re meant to be little terrors every once in a while. And, sometimes rules are meant to be broken or ignored whether we like it or not. They’re growing older and testing they’re limits. I guess it comes with the territory of aging. Ugh, bittersweet.

I hope I NEVER have another day like today, I nearly wanted to hide under my desk until their Dad came home to save me.

Have you guys had Momming moments like this?

Hugs,

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How I Lost My Dad To Cancer And Got Pregnant In The Same Year

Photo By: Luis Ibarra Photography

 

Today, I celebrate my oldest turning 8 years old! I can’t even grasp how fast time goes,  but, I’m so honored to see Skyler-Ian grow into a genuine, well-mannered gentleman. See, I believe Skyler was destined for a greater purpose than I had ever imagined. I know he was placed on this Earth for a positive reason, to change those around him for the better. See, I firmly believe that Skyler-Ian’s purpose was to change me for the better.
In December 2008, just freshly 20 years old, I found out I was a little over a month pregnant (out of wedlock). To make matters a little more complicated, per say, I had just lost my Dad to cancer just 6 months prior. I was in the middle of my sophomore year in college and was thriving in my entertainment career — well within my second season promoting & skating for the NHL. I was also working a healthcare job simultaneously. I had my plate pretty full!


I was “seeing” my on again, off again boyfriend cautiously. Well, I guess not cautious enough – obviously. We weren’t together at the moment I found out I was pregnant, but, things drastically changed when I did found out I was. There was a whirlwind, unexpected move to a different state in one day, unexpectedly quitting my jobs and leaving school. Enrolling in an out of state college & using the last of my savings to only afford ONE class! It was a struggle. I was grateful for the support of my Boyfriends family — his Grandparents, Sister & Mom during this sudden change.

I was blessed to have met a group of kids on my first day of my college class and they made me feel so welcomed!! The next six months, consisted of an impromptu Vegas-style wedding, walking to and from my school to my boyfriend (turned Husband’s) job. And, moving back home to AZ after completing my college class.

The beginning trimester of my pregnancy was the hardest, anxiety-filled struggle- EVER! It was in that moment I felt the most alone, afraid & uncertain of who I was, what I was meant to do. My faith was shaken to the core, in certain moments I no longer had faith or believed in God. I questioned myself daily & wasn’t confident I was able to be a Mother or Wife. I was in and out of the hospital due to stress, anxiety and other minor complications. At one point we thought I miscarried.

After moving back to AZ we started to settle into our norm. The pregnancy sped up and before we knew it on August 13, 2009, at 12:44 am my whole world changed.. for the better. I welcomed a bouncing, baby boy into the world! He came into this world surrounded by loved ones, a lot of eager Families. And, a lot of Friends who waited for hours in the waiting room of the hospital.


It was when I held him for the first time all my insecurities & worries disappeared. I realized he was put in my life for a reason. Our journey to learn and grow together begun. The first couple of months into the first year, I swear I had no idea what I was doing. Skyler-Ian changed who I was. When my Dad died I lost my way, forgot who I was & wasn’t confident in my purpose. But, Skyler-Ian taught me to be selfless, to be more patient, caring and learned to love stronger than before. And, he brought back my faith.


Today, Skyler-Ian still continues to teach me. I couldn’t be any prouder and blessed to have him in my life. He is an amazing, proud big Brother & loves and thinks of his siblings before himself. I don’t know how lucky I got with Skyler.


My dreams and wishes for him are to continue to thrive, grow and learn. To follow his dreams & goals no matter what they may be. My heart is SO full knowing that he is able to do the things he loves and I get to watch him flourish.

I know our journey is still in the beginning stages. But, I know we can only go up from here. Happy 8th Birthday, SIR!

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How Katelynn Began Homeschooling For PreSchool

We’ve got ourself a lefty!

The boys have officially entered their second week of school! I officially have a 3rd grader who will be 8 on Sunday & a first grader who will be 7 this November!

Kate is 3 and will be 4 this December-guys, where have my babies gone!? I’m loving these ages but, I do miss having a little baby nugget around!

If you’ve followed me since the beginning you know that I had put Skyler in pre-school at 3 years old. At 4 we continued pre-school at home & at 5 he was off to public school! Spencer stayed home at 3-4 years old and we homeschooled until he was off to public school at 5!

Kate will be homeschooled for pre-school and we will be doing a lot of play dates/co-op preschool play dates. I discovered that Kate is a lefty just like me! (Woo-hoo!) I always found it hard when I was teaching the boys to hold a pencil when they were 3 how to properly hold it with their right hand. So thankful the Hubby and Brother stepped in to help, cause quite frankly, I don’t know how to hold a pencil in my right hand. Feels strange and incorrect when I do! So when I noticed Kate’s left hand was more dominant I was ecstatic!

We busted out the letter flashcards, number flash cards, and our preschool workbook! Kate can recite her alphabet, count 1-20, she knows her colors and a good majority of her shapes!

My goal this time around is to work on letter recognition and sound recognition. I’ll let you guys know how that goes! (Haha)

Check out this cute little video of Kate tracing today =]

What’re your favorite study habits?

Lots of love,

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